Superbowl 49-The Bad Karma Bowl

Superbowl 49 faced off the Patriots, Bill Belichik and the Seahhawks Pete Carroll. These guys are two of the most unlikeable, selfish, and egotistical head coaches to ever lead their teams to a Super Bowl. They have had pretty stiff competition for these honors but arguably lead the pack in this respect. So Superbowl 49 or the Bad Karma Bowl was won by Tom Brady and Bill Belichik. Why call it the Bad Karma Bowl? There is a large cloud hanging over the legitimacy of Belichik’s at least one of his first three Super Bowl victories. In his first Super Bowl win Jan 2000, it is known he spied in a very big way on the St. Louis Rams practices. This enabled him to know by offensive formations if the Rams would be running or passing. That plus deflategate leads one to believe he will cheat in any way large or small for a victory. With Pete Carroll at USC in 2004-2005 he presided over one of the biggest college football scandals of all time. Soon after the brutal sanctions hit USC, he left the university holding the bag and took a job as the Seahawks HC. Which of these two head coaches have accumulated the most in quantity and quality of slimy moves between the two? Well, its about as evenly matched as this Superbowl game was.
What does this mean? Belichik, though heartless is one of the best X and O strategist’s of his era. Carroll, though head buried way up his butt, is one of the best motivators of this era. As it turns out, the guy who is probably the best post season QB of this or any era wins this pick em game. This was done against one of the best defenses of all time in the pass happy era of the NFL. Tom Brady, who has the charm of Cary Grant and the combo of leadership skills and killer instincts of Geronimo, nickeled and dimed his way down the field to overcoming a second half 10 point deficit against a great defense. It also appears that Carroll out coached himself by taking his foot off the pedal of his intimidating defense. So, once again a team using the prevent the win defense, prevents a win. Then on offense Carroll called for a dangerous pass into the teeth of a tough defense. This resulted in an INT with only one yard to go and 3 downs to seal a victory. The lack of intelligent foresight of this highly questionable call is amplified by keeping Marshawn Lynch out of the play when he has been playing like wild man all game. Belichik, does not have to be a genius to let his opposing HC make or allow critical bad decisions which led to losing the last game of the season. My two guiding principles in making this play-call would have been to not send Marshawn Lynch anywhere near Vince Wilfork. Then also use a misdirection play probably using Lynch. One more thing on this critical situation.
A good rule of thumb is at the goal line is either run it or pass it all 3 downs. Every time a team mixes and matches, bad things happens and this time was no exception. It seems that subconsciously the offense is at its best at the goal line when they focus on the run or the pass.

It is hard to ignore the poetic justice of the prelude to the Bad Karma Bowl being the deflategate controversy. Amid all the the entertaining stuff said about rubbing balls and such what stands out, not surprisingly, is that Belichik is quite a good liar and Brady is a very bad one. Yet if the two ran against each other in a political race, who would you vote for? This would probably be another pick em contest. I have always felt that the truly big-hearted moral people of New England has basically made a pact with the devil.

In the end, it appears that Tom Brady’s good karma was stronger than his head coach’s bad karma. Tom Brady, along with his consummate leadership abilities, puts absolutely crazy hours into film study and also treats the game, his teammates and other peers with tons of respect. He also appears to be a good guy who doesn’t seem to have let his mega fame and success go to his head. Russell Wilson, also seems to be a good guy and talented QB. However, at this point the youthful Wilson does not match up to Tom Terrific’s entire package of accumulated football wisdom, savvy leadership and impressive coolness under pressure.

Brady, also has the benefit of Belichik being clearly superior to Carroll as a head coach in that his players are consistently professional in demeanor. Carroll’s Seahawks, on the other hand, let their punk flag fly fairly often. To be fair about it, a person may act like a punk but not be one. However, starting a fight while the other team is taking a victory knee at the end of any football game let alone a Super Bowl, does beg the question.

The game was entertaining, historic and a thriller to the end. With that in mind, a tip of my hat to both teams for their efforts. However, I am still calling this the Bad Karma Bowl because the two men who had the most control over what each team has become and faced off in this culturally important confrontation have on multiple major occasions crossed way beyond the important lines of morality within their field of endeavor. Its an illusion to believe, we can do something wrong and never pay a price for it.

Of the four main characters in Superbowl 49, in my opinion Brady appears to have the best karma and Carroll the worst. Its the Bad Karma Bowl because Belichik’s bad karma is comparable to Carroll’s bad karma. Carroll’s main moral transgression was that he totally deserted USC at maybe the lowest point in their storied history. Carroll was out of coaching for two years after he failed as the HC for the Patriots. In spite of USC saving him from the head coaching graveyard and giving him a great opportunity for success, Carroll behaved like a rat deserting a sinking ship. A telling sign that his team lost because of his bad karma is that when he needed his intelligence to make a fairly obvious critical decision, his smarts deserted him. Bad karma often strikes at critical moments when you need to make a smart decision. This is why smart people make some very bad decisions about love, money, careers, etc. Not giving the ball to Beast Mode Lynch at end of this game seems to clearly fall into this category.

Sports has always had a strong element of building character. Any good parent knows that if a child does not learn the value of moral boundaries, it will only lead to unnecessary pain and suffering for all involved. Belichik cheated the 1999 Rams, a better team than his Patriots, out of a world championship. This led to unnecessary suffering for all connected to the St. Louis Rams. Since 2011 under Pete Carroll, six of his Seahawk players have been found taking illegal performance enhancing substances. Two of those six were starters in Seattle’s fierce Legion of Doom secondary which which was the key part of their dominating defense that led to a Super Bowl victory in 2014. More cheating more people probably getting cheated out of what they rightfully earned. It became apparent ot me that is was karma in particular bad karma that the resulted in the final score of Superbowl 49.

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What Is Love

What is Love, a timely question for this time of year. Most everyone wants to experience love. Yet do most of us really know what is true love? If someone wants to have a better understanding of how to love in order to fully experience love, they need to get a grip on the concept of “unconditional love”. We all experience love in some form and in some way, but do we really contemplate what it is? It is important to understand that love is experienced by the lover. When you love someone, that is your very personal experience of love. The person you are loving may experience the love they feel from you. However, the love that they experience toward you maybe be different than your experience of love toward them. These differences may be profound or subtle but it is likely that these differences do indeed exist. For example, one party may be in touch with their love with another while the other party may not be feeling it on that moment, that day or that week etc. The experience of love is typically filtered through the mind and its minefield of possible thoughts to the heart. The less the mind is at play and the more the heart is at play the deeper we feel love. We can categorically claim that love is a unique experience of feeling love for another.

There is a paradoxical element about love. As stated, the experience of love can be unique to each person. However, love is also a union between two parties. The experience of this merging is central to experiencing love. It is this profound bonding where a person loses their sense of individuality for finite moments in time that draws us most to love.

A telling behavior of love is self-sacrifice. Therefore, love can also be an act of self-sacrifice. Some acts of selflessness may look like love. However, if an act is primarily motivated by the ego, than this is not love. Ego is about experiencing separation. The ego wants to make you feel better than everyone else or smaller than everyone else. Either way the ego wins and love loses. The place, the experience where there is no beginning or end, this is love.

Love is unconditional. We enter this world with many needs, the need for unconditional love is the most profound. If a parent or parent figure does not consistently deliver unconditional love to a child, the child will have doubts about how lovable they are. Young minds are extremely impressionable. They absorb lots of information quickly but often misinterpret it. If a child does not get enough unconditional love growing up, he or she primarily feels lovable based on conditions. As an adult this can be overcome but quite often takes great effort. The idea that love conquers all does not really apply to someone who has severe problems and constrictions with feeling lovable. Romantic love will not solve this problem. The surest way to remove the learned behavior of only feeling lovable based on conditions is for someone to experience unconditional love coming from a parent figure. Here is an illustration of how unconditional love is delivered. A devoted mother knows the needs of her child both big and small. She knows what will make her child safe and happy. This type of mother gives much effort to anticipating these needs and fulfilling as many of them as she possibly can. Of course a child also need structure and discipline. These elements round out a person so they can respect themselves as well as others. Good parents know that and put it all together. No one ever said being a good parent was at all easy. Being a parent is in fact a true a labor of love.

On your path to find love, the question will no doubt arise, do I love this person. There is a simple way to to clear up any possible confusion. First mentally ask the question on one side then internally weigh the feeling. Then ask the question on the other side and weigh the feeling. Whichever feeling weighs even slightly more that is how you truly feel. This method works for any doubts you may have about how you feel about virtually anything.

Conditional love includes unnecessarily harsh conditions and other inappropriate strings attached to a relationship. Given that we live in the world of duality all relationships to one degree or another have legitimate expectations. Parent to child, child to parent, spouse to spouse, family member to family member all have very specific appropriate expectations. Friend to friend is the relationship with the least amount of societal obligations. In friend to friend love, the only bond is really the relationship itself. As human being to human being there are levels of respect and propriety that inherently exist.

The friend to friend love has from society’s perspective limited expectations. Somewhat surprisingly, it is the form of love that mirrors unconditional love more than any other relationship. The obligations we feel for a friend come from the pure place of the heart. Of course unconditional love can and should be part of all relationships. Ironically, the course we navigate for relationships that come with an assortment of expectations but also are typically our closest relationships has narrower lane for unconditional love than the open ended friend to friend love. The path of unconditional love maybe wider yet the connection of love may not be experienced as deeply.

Love is a selfless experience. In spiritual circles there is a line drawn between what is love versus what is attachment. Attachment feels like love, looks like love, has an element of love in it, but is not really love. Attachment is much more about ego and selfish desires than it is about the selfless merging experience of love. One cannot really experience the profoundness of love if their ego and its selfish desires are too prominent in a relationship. One cannot have a selfless experience if they are primarily experiencing their ego in what they believe is a feeling of love or an act of love.

The issue of duality versus non-duality is a hidden element of love. The experience of duality, is about a singular being feeling separate from other humans and the physical world. From a spiritual perspective this is simply a starting point and not indicative of the whole picture of who we are and what we are. An example of an experience beyond duality is when we close our eyes, let our thoughts truly vanish and are only aware of the experience of love as a merging with one person, our loved ones, all of humanity, nature etc.

There is not one kind of love that is better than another because it all comes from the same source. Romantic love is not a higher form of love than friend to friend love. The intensity of love based on the dynamics of the relationship could make the romantic love a person feels more important to that person. However, from an overall standpoint it is all love and it is all very vital.

In summarizing what is love, the best place to start is with the purest love which is unconditional love. Love is respect for yourself and others. An act of self-sacrifice is often love in action. The experience of love is a unique experience, a merging of mind and heart, and a selfless experience.

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What Is Love

What is Love, a timely question for this time of year. Most everyone wants to experience love. Yet do most of us really know what is true love? If someone wants to have a better understanding of how to love in order to fully experience love, they need to get a grip on the concept of “unconditional love”. We all experience love in some form and in some way, but do we really contemplate what it is? It is important to understand that love is experienced by the lover. When you love someone, that is your very personal experience of love. The person you are loving may experience the love they feel from you. However, the love that they experience toward you maybe be different than your experience of love toward them. These differences may be profound or subtle but it is likely that these differences do indeed exist. For example, one party may be in touch with their love with another while the other party may not be feeling it on that moment, that day or that week etc. The experience of love is typically filtered through the mind and its minefield of possible thoughts to the heart. The less the mind is at play and the more the heart is at play the deeper we feel love. We can categorically claim that love is a unique experience of feeling love for another.

There is a paradoxical element about love. As stated, the experience of love can be unique to each person. However, love is also a union between two parties. The experience of this merging is central to experiencing love. It is this profound bonding where a person loses their sense of individuality for finite moments in time that draws us most to love.

A telling behavior of love is self-sacrifice. Therefore, love can also be an act of self-sacrifice. Some acts of selflessness may look like love. However, if an act is primarily motivated by the ego, than this is not love. Ego is about experiencing separation. The ego wants to make you feel better than everyone else or smaller than everyone else. Either way the ego wins and love loses. The place, the experience where there is no beginning or end, this is love.

Love is unconditional. We enter this world with many needs, the need for unconditional love is the most profound. If a parent or parent figure does not consistently deliver unconditional love to a child, the child will have doubts about how lovable they are. Young minds are extremely impressionable. They absorb lots of information quickly but often misinterpret it. If a child does not get enough unconditional love growing up, he or she primarily feels lovable based on conditions. As an adult this can be overcome but quite often takes great effort. The idea that love conquers all does not really apply to someone who has severe problems and constrictions with feeling lovable. Romantic love will not solve this problem. The surest way to remove the learned behavior of only feeling lovable based on conditions is for someone to experience unconditional love coming from a parent figure. Here is an illustration of how unconditional love is delivered. A devoted mother knows the needs of her child both big and small. She knows what will make her child safe and happy. This type of mother gives much effort to anticipating these needs and fulfilling as many of them as she possibly can. Of course a child also need structure and discipline. These elements round out a person so they can respect themselves as well as others. Good parents know that and put it all together. No one ever said being a good parent was at all easy. Being a parent is in fact a true a labor of love.

On your path to find love, the question will no doubt arise, do I love this person. There is a simple way to to clear up any possible confusion. First mentally ask the question on one side then internally weigh the feeling. Then ask the question on the other side and weigh the feeling. Whichever feeling weighs even slightly more that is how you truly feel. This method works for any doubts you may have about how you feel about virtually anything.

Conditional love includes unnecessarily harsh conditions and other inappropriate strings attached to a relationship. Given that we live in the world of duality all relationships to one degree or another have legitimate expectations. Parent to child, child to parent, spouse to spouse, family member to family member all have very specific appropriate expectations. Friend to friend is the relationship with the least amount of societal obligations. In friend to friend love, the only bond is really the relationship itself. As human being to human being there are levels of respect and propriety that inherently exist.

The friend to friend love has from society’s perspective limited expectations. Somewhat surprisingly, it is the form of love that mirrors unconditional love more than any other relationship. The obligations we feel for a friend come from the pure place of the heart. Of course unconditional love can and should be part of all relationships. Ironically, the course we navigate for relationships that come with an assortment of expectations but also are typically our closest relationships has narrower lane for unconditional love than the open ended friend to friend love. The path of unconditional love maybe wider yet the connection of love may not be experienced as deeply.

Love is a selfless experience. In spiritual circles there is a line drawn between what is love versus what is attachment. Attachment feels like love, looks like love, has an element of love in it, but is not really love. Attachment is much more about ego and selfish desires than it is about the selfless merging experience of love. One cannot really experience the profoundness of love if their ego and its selfish desires are too prominent in a relationship. One cannot have a selfless experience if they are primarily experiencing their ego in what they believe is a feeling of love or an act of love.

The issue of duality versus non-duality is a hidden element of love. The experience of duality, is about a singular being feeling separate from other humans and the physical world. From a spiritual perspective this is simply a starting point and not indicative of the whole picture of who we are and what we are. An example of an experience beyond duality is when we close our eyes, let our thoughts truly vanish and are only aware of the experience of love as a merging with one person, our loved ones, all of humanity, nature etc.

There is not one kind of love that is better than another because it all comes from the same source. Romantic love is not a higher form of love than friend to friend love. The intensity of love based on the dynamics of the relationship could make the romantic love a person feels more important to that person. However, from an overall standpoint it is all love and it is all very vital.

In summarizing what is love, the best place to start is with the purest love which is unconditional love. Love is respect for yourself and others. An act of self-sacrifice is often love in action. The experience of love is a unique experience, a merging of mind and heart, and a selfless experience.

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